Month: July 2016

I Was Molested By My Father, What Should I Do?

Your parents are supposed to take care of you, not hurt you. But if you were molested by your father (or stepfather or foster father), you must find someone to help you and keep you safe from harm.

You need to tell someone what happened, to protect yourself and, if you have them, to protect your brothers or sisters. If you do not feel comfortable talking to your mom or another adult, call 954-524-2820. Our sexual abuse lawyers have helped lots of kids in your situation, and we can help you too, right now.

What Should I Do if I Was Molested by My Father?

If you were molested by your father, the most important thing for you to do is talk to someone today.

If you do not feel comfortable talking to your mom, that is totally understandable. Maybe you have a teacher, a counselor, or an adult at school you trust. You might consider talking to a grandparent, someone from your church, your doctor, or even a friend’s mom or dad.

You could also call a hotline that is specifically for victims of sexual assault, like the National Sexual Assault Hotline (800-656-HOPE). Or, you could call a sex abuse lawyer.

When your father molested you, he violated your trust. He may threaten you to not tell anyone, or try to convince you that his actions are “normal.” They are not normal.

You may not want to tell anyone because you are afraid of hurting your mom, or you may be afraid of breaking up your family. You may not want to get your dad in trouble. You may be afraid that no one will believe you, or that someone might blame you.

Whatever your fears may be, it is important that you realize that you will not get in trouble for talking to someone about what happened to you. No one will blame you or doubt your word. What they will do is protect you and make sure this never happens again.

Yes, you must be brave to make the decision to talk to someone about what happened to you. But you cannot carry this dark secret around with you for one more day.

And if this happened years ago and you are now an adult, you should still tell someone. It will take a weight off your shoulders and you may still be able to hold your father liable for what he did to you.

If you are a parent whose child has come forth and alleged molestation by your spouse, believe them and get them the help they need.

Understanding Molestation and Sexual Abuse by a Parent

Molestation and sexual abuse can take many forms. You may wonder if what happened to you was actually molestation or abuse. Here are some examples.

  • Touching you inappropriately

  • Making you touch them inappropriately

  • Exposing themselves to you

  • Watching you undress or change clothes

  • Showing you pornographic images

These are not the only types of molestation. If it felt wrong to you, it probably was.

Even people you love — like your dad — can sometimes be sexual predators. This situation is painful and hard to understand, but it is not your fault. The longer you stay silent, however, the more you harm he can cause for you and your family.

It is important for you to know you have not done anything wrong and this is not your fault. Sometimes adults have problems or illnesses, but no one ever has the right to hurt you like this.

How Much Will a Sex Abuse Lawyer Cost?

Talking to a lawyer will not cost you (or your family) any money.

Almost all sex abuse attorneys will talk to you about this issue and explain your options for free. Do not hesitate to contact an attorney, especially if you feel you have no one else you can trust.

A lawyer who focuses on working with molestation victims can help you make decisions that are the best for you, your family, and your future.

How Many Kids Get Molested by a Family Member?

This question is difficult to answer because a lot of kids do not report being molested by their father or another family member.

One of every five girls, and one in 20 boys, will be sexually molested by the time they turn 18, reports the Crimes Against Children Research Center. According to the National Institute of Justice, 75 percent of adolescents who were victims of sexual assault were victimized by someone they knew well.

By talking to someone, you might inspire others to come forward and stop their abuse too. Even more importantly, you may save one of your little brothers or sisters (or another family member) from being victimized.

How Can You Find a Sexual Abuse Lawyer to Help You?

Many compassionate, caring attorneys are dedicated to helping young people who have been the victim of abuse.

The lawyers of Edwards Pottinger LLC help clients who have been molested or sexually abused. They work every day with people who were taken advantage of by trusted teachers, ministers, family friends, and even family members.

You do not have to suffer in silence or fear for your safety. If you were molested by your father, call us right now at 954-524-2820 to speak to a sexual abuse and molestation lawyer.